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Resources – Grief and Bereavement

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35 ways to help a grieving child -- Portland, OR: The Dougy Center, 1999.
Learn what behaviors and reactions to expect from children at different ages, ways to create safe outlets for children to express their thoughts and feelings and how to be supportive during special events such as the memorial service, anniversaries and holidays.
FAM BF 575 .G7 T55

Being with dying: cultivating compassion and fearlessness in the presence of death / Halifax, Joan -- Boston: Shambhala Publications Inc., 2008.
Inspired by traditional Buddhist teachings, this is a source for all those who are charged with a dying person’s care, facing their own death, or wishing to explore and contemplate the transformative power of the dying process. The author’s teachings affirm that we can open and contact our inner strength, and that we can help others who are suffering to do the same.
FAM BF 575 .G7 H35 2008

Breaking the silence: a guide to help children with complicated grief - suicide, homicide, AIDS, violence, and abuse / Goldman, Linda -- New York: Taylor & Francis, 2001.
This book provides specific ideas and techniques to work with children in various areas of complicated grief. It presents words and methods to help initiate discussions of these delicate topics, as well as tools to help children understand and separate complicated grief into parts.
FAM BF 575 .G7 G64 2001

Children die too: for parents who are experiencing to death of a child / Johnson, Joy -- Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 2004.
This brief booklet offers comforting insights and information about the feelings that are often experienced by parents after the death of a child. It also offers advice on how to talk to siblings and ways in which they may deal with their grief.
FAM BF 575 .G7 J646 2004

Dear parents: letters to bereaved parents -- Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 2003.
This is a support group in book form. It is a collection of letters from bereaved parents to bereaved parents.  Each page will tell you what other bereaved parents and siblings went through and what you can to do try and cope.
FAM BF 575 .G7 D43 2003

Easing the hurt: a handbook of comfort for families and friends of people who are seriously ill / Latimer, Elizabeth J. -- Hamilton, ON: E. Latimer, 1998.
This book provides suggestions on how to help those who are dealing with serious illness in a loved one or themselves. It is a combination of thought, ideas, suggestions and reflections.
FAM R 726.8 .L37 1998

Et mes enfants dans tout ça? un guide pour les parents vivant avec un cancer du sein / Corsini, Linda J. -- Ontario: Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation, 2006.
C'est une ressource complète qui aborde le large éventail de questions et de défis parents de jeunes enfants peuvent rencontrer quand un parent est diagnostiqué avec le cancer du sein. En fournissant des informations pertinentes, accessibles et pratiques pour répondre aux besoins complexes des parents et des enfants, il vise à aider les familles à faire face au cancer du sein ainsi que.

FAM BF 575 .G7 C614 2006

Family hospice care / van Bommel, Harry -- Scarborough, ON: The Society, 1999.
This book covers the physical, emotional, spiritual and information needs of patients, families and other care providers who care for those in hospice.
FAM R 726.8 .V33 1999

Grandma's tears: comfort for grieving grandparents / Kolf, June Cerza -- Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1995.
Grandparents are often overlooked when a grandchild dies, yet they carry a double burden-- the loss of their grandchild and the sorrow of their own grieving children. Author Kolf offers support and hope in brief chapters that do not overwhelm the bereaved.
FAM BF 575 .G7 K634

The grief recovery handbook: the action program for moving beyond death, divorce, and other losses / James, John W. -- New York: HarperPerennial, 1998.
This resource helps people complete the grieving process and move toward recovery and happiness.  It illustrates how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity.
FAM BF 575 .G7 J36

A guide for fathers: when a baby dies / Nelson, Timoth -- St. Paul, MN: A Place to Remember, 2004.
This book offers suggestions for communicating with medical caregivers, offering support to their partner, telling the news to other children, making funeral arrangements and taking care of themselves in a time of crisis. It discusses effective communications during the weeks and months following the loss, going to a support group, returning to the workplace, and the issues surrounding a subsequent pregnancy.
FAM BF 575 .G7 N44 2004

Guiding your child through grief / Emswiler, Mary Ann -- New York: Bantam Books, 2000.
This caring and compassionate guide offers expert advice during difficult days to help a child grieve the death of a parent or sibling. Based on their experience as counselors and as parents of grieving children, the authors help readers to understand the many ways children grieve, changes in family dynamics after death, ways to communicate with children about death and grief, how to cope with the intense sorrow triggered by holidays, the signs grief has turned to depression and where to find help.
FAM BF 575 .G7 E57

Helping teens cope with death -- Portland, OR: The Dougy Center, 1999.
This practical guide covers the unique grief responses of teenagers and the specific challenges they face when grieving a death. You will learn how death impacts teenagers and ways that you can help them.
FAM BF 575 .G7 H44

Keys to helping children deal with death and grief / Johnson, Joy -- Hauppauge, NY: Barron's, 1999.
An experienced bereavement specialist tells parents how to explain the concept of death in ways that will be understandable to children.  She helps parents anticipate children's responses and needs, shows how to cope with funeral rites in meaningful ways, and points out the importance of incorporating the loss into a positive sense of personal memories.
FAM BF 575 .G7 J64

Living with death and dying: how to communicate with the terminally ill / Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth -- New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997.
This is a sensitive guide to communicating with a dying person and understanding their needs.  Two of the four chapters are written by others - one is a therapist who discusses the interpretation of pictures drawn by dying people. The other is by a parent of a dying child and her experiences and feelings during the period that her child was seriously ill.
FAM BF 575 .G7 K88 1997

Lorsque la vie éclate: l'impact de la mort d'un enfant sur la famille / de Montigny, Francine -- Saint-Laurent, PQ: Éditions du renouveau pédagogique, 1997.
Ce livre offre des pistes de réflexion et des stratégies d'intervention afin de guider les professionnels de la santé dans leurs interactions avec les familles endeuillées. Principaux points abordés: la mort du fœtus, du nourrisson, du jeune enfant d'âge préscolaire et scolaire, de l'adolescent, l'intervention infirmière.
FAM BF 575 .G7 D45

Parenting with wit and wisdom in times of chaos and loss / Coloroso, Barbara -- Toronto: Viking, 1999.
Author Barbara Coloroso tackles the question of how to parent when life is not smooth, when tragedy or trauma invades daily life, whether it’s a small crisis or a major disaster. Barbara looks at how we as parents can best comfort and nurture our children, and ourselves, as we navigate through the inevitable suffering, adversity, chaos, and losses in our lives.
FAM BF 575 .G7 C64

Les rêves envolés: traverser le deuil d'un tout petit bébé / Fréchette-Piperni, Suzy -- Boucherville, PQ: Éditions de Mortagne, 2005.
Contrairement aux croyances généralement véhiculées dans notre société, predre un bébé attendu et aimé est une tragédie pour les parents. Ils voient tous leurs beaux rêves s'envoler. Cet ouvrage a été conçu dans le but d'offrir aux parents un soutien efficace ainsi que des suggestions pour les aider à faire face aux moments difficiles, quelle qui soit la perte périnatale qu'ils subissent: fausse couche précoce ou tardive, interruption médicale de la grossesse, accouchement d'un enfant mort-né, décès, du nouveau-né dans les heures ou semaines suivant sa naissance.
FAM BF 575. G7 F75 2005

Shelter from the storm: caring for a child with a life-threatening condition / Hilden, Joanne M. -- Cambridge MA: Perseus Publishing, 2003.
Provides support for parents coping with the psychological and spiritual hardships of caring for a child with a life-threatening illness.
FAM BF 723 .P25 H54

La vie et la mort / Labbe, Brigitte -- Toulouse, France: Éditions Milan, 2000.
Cette collection expose des ide´es et des concepts philosophiques adapte´s aux jeunes de 8 à 13 ans.
FAM BF 575 .G7 L32

What about my kids: a guide for parents living with breast cancer / Corsini, Linda J -- Ontario: Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation, 2006.
This is a comprehensive resource that addresses the broad range of issues and challenges parents with young children may encounter when a parent is diagnosed with breast cancer. By providing relevant, accessible and practical information to address the complex needs of parents and children, it aims to help families cope with breast cancer together.
FAM BF 575 .G7 C6 2006

What about the kids? understanding their needs in funeral planning and services / Dougy Center for Grieving Children -- Portland, OR: The Dougy Center For Grieving Children, 1999.
This book addresses the best practices for funeral and memorial services with children and teens. Learn how to include children in these rituals and creative ways to involve them in the process. You will find suggestions from children and teens about what was helpful and unhelpful about the funeral or memorial service they attended.
FAM BF 575 .G7 D68

When a family pet dies: a guide to dealing with children's loss / Tuzeo-Jarolmen, Joann -- London: Jessica Kingsley, 2007.
Addresses the signs of grieving children, their relationships with their pets, and how caring adults can be helpful. Provides practical interventions in helping the child's grief process.
FAM BF 575 .G7 T89 2007

When a parent is sick: helping parents explain serious illness to children / Hamilton, Joan -- Lawrencetown Beach, NS: Pottersfield Press, 2001.
This book provides parents and other care givers with suggestions on how to approach children with the information that their parent is seriously ill.
FAM BF 723 .P25 H36

When children grieve: for adults to help children deal with death, divorce, pet loss, moving, and other losses / James, John W. -- New York, Quill, 2002.
There are many life experiences that can produce feelings of grief in a child, from the death of a relative or a divorce in the family to more everyday experiences such as moving to a new neighborhood or losing a prized possession.  No matter the reason or degree of severity, if a child you love is grieving, the guidelines examined in this thoughtful book can make a difference.
FAM BF 575 .G7 J35 2002

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Reading List for Kids and Teens

After you lose someone you love: advice and insight from the diaries of three kids who've been there / Dennison, Amy -- Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing Inc. 2005.
Three children, a boy of 4 and twin 8 year old girls deal with their father's death. The diary entries begin with finding out their father has died, and cover the 2 years following his death.
FAM BF 575 .G7 D46 2005

La caresse du papillon / Voltz, Christian.: Rouergue, 2005.
Moment d'intimité entre deux générations, La Caresse du papillon est une réflexion poétique sur le cycle de la vie, avec le naturel et la subtilité que l'on connaît à Christian Voltz.
FAM BF 575 .G7 V65 2005

Dealing with dying, death, and grief during adolescence / Balk, David E. -- New York: Routledge, 2014.
Using clear language, the author provides readers with information about adolescent development to form the back story to comprehend the impact of death and bereavement in an adolescent's life. It also examines interventions that assist adolescents coping with death and grief.
FAM BF 575 .G7 B26 2014

Le deuil: y'a pas de mal à être triste / Mundy, Michaelene -- Strasbourg: Éditions du Signe, 2003.
Rempli de conseils positif affirmation de la vie pour vivre avec la perte comme un enfant, ce guide explique aux enfants ce qu'ils doivent savoir, après une perte - que le monde est toujours sûr, la vie est bonne, et les cœurs ne blesser réparer. Écrit par un conseiller scolaire, ce livre aide les enfants de confort face de la pire et la plus difficile de la réalité.
FAM BF 575 .G7 M8714

Don't despair on Thursdays! the children's grief-management book / Moser, Adolph J. -- Kansas City, MS: Landmark Editions, 1996.
A guide for children on dealing with feelings of grief when people or pets die or when friends move away.
FAM BF 575 .G7 M68

Est-ce que tout le monde meurt? / Pion, Lynne. -- Sainte-Marie, QC: Éditions du trèfle à quatre feuilles, 2011.
Une histoire pour les enfants de 5 à 15 ans qui permettra, je le souhaite, de "détaboutiser" la mort et le deuil dans les foyers. Un livre écrit pour les enfants avec les vrais mots et les vraies émotions. Un outil pour les parents, grands-parents, professeurs et tous ceux qui désirent aider l'enfant à mieux comprendre des concepts intangibles et faciliter la discussion.
FAM BF 575 .G7 P56 2011

Healing your grieving heart for kids: 100 practical ideas / Wolfelt, Alan D. -- Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press, 2001.
This book helps children deal with the grief they are feeling after the death of a loved one. It helps them to mourn so that they eventually feel better.
FAM BF 575 .G7 W645

The Heart and the bottle / Jeffers, Oliver. -- London UK: HarperCollins Children's Books, 2010.
In this story, the author deals with the weighty themes of love and loss with an lightness of touch and shows us, ultimately, that there is always hope.
FAM BF 575 .G7 J44 2010

Help for the hard times: getting through loss / Hipp, Earl -- Center City, MN: Hazelden Press, 1995.
A guide for adolescents on the loss of a loved one and dealing with grief.Appropriate for ages 12-17 years.
FAM BF 575 .G7 H57

Helping teens work through grief / Perschy, Mary Kelly -- New York: Brunner-Routledge, 2004.
When teens experience the death of a loved one, their already unsettled lives are often further complicated by intense emotions, fluctuating hormones, and changing relationships. This book is a valuable resource for adults who are interested in offering teen grief groups, a comforting and effective approach to grief that has helped countless teens cope with their losses.
FAM BF 575 .G7 P47 2004

Howard B. Wigglebottom listens to a friend: a fable about loss and healing / Binkow, Howard. -- Thunderbolt Publishing, 2015.
Howard's friend Kiki's pet dies, and Howard and his friends must learn how to help her cope.
FAM BF 575 .G7 B56 2015

Ida, always / Levis, Caron; Santoso, Charles (ill). -- New York: Atheneum Books for Young Readers, 2016.
A story of two best friends inspired by a real bear friendship and a gentle reminder that loved ones lost will stay in our hearts, always.For ages 4-8
FAM BF 575 .G7 L48 2016

Imagine / Bellière, Charlotte; De Haes, Ian (ill). -- Bruxelles: Alice Éditions, 2014.
Oriane a un doudou super, un hippopotame, avec qui elle a déjà vécu plein d'aventures fantastiques. Sauf que, depuis ce matin, son doudou est tout mou; il ne réagit plus.
FAM BF 575 .G7 B45 2014

Mon chien gruyère / Nadon, Yves – Montreal, PQ: Les 400 coups, 2006.
Un enfant se souvient de son chien et de tous ce qu'ils ont fait ensemble.  Pour les enfants de 4 - 10 ans
FAM BF 575 .G7 N32 2006

Samantha Jane's missing smile: a story about coping with the loss of a parent / Kaplow, Julie -- Washington, DC: Magination Press, 2007.
With the help of her mother and her neighbor Mrs. Cooper, Samantha Jane is able to talk about how sad she is since her father died and to find ways to remember him, and then she begins to feel better.  Appropriate for Ages: 4 - 8 years.
FAM BF 575 .G7 K36 2007

Saying goodbye to Daddy / Vigna, Judith -- Morton Grove, IL: Albert Whitman & Co. 1991.
After Clare’s father is killed in a car accident, she becomes frightened, lonely, and angry. Clare’s mother and grandfather help her through the grieving process.  Appropriate for Ages: 4-8 years
FAM BF 575 .G7 V67

Tu me manques / Verrept, Paul -- Paris : L'École des loisirs, 1999.
Après le déménagement de son amie Annie pour un autre quartier, un garçonnet se retrouve seul et triste. Sa copine lui manque. Son grand-père aussi vit un deuil puisque sa compagne est morte. Présentation simple de la peine, du vide causé par l'absence d'un être aimé.
FAM BF 575 .G7 V4714

What is Death / Boritzer, Etan -- Los Angeles, CA: St. Veronica Lane Books, 2000.
The author presents the concept of death to children with examples of customs and beliefs from various religions and cultures.  Appropriate for Ages: 4-11 years
FAM BF 575 .G7 B67 2000

What's Heaven? / Shriver, Maria -- New York: St. Martin's Press, 1999.
A girl asks her mother questions about heaven after her great-grandmother passes away.  Appropriate for Ages: 4-8 years
FAM BF 575 .G7 S54

When dinosaurs die: a guide to understanding death / Brown, Laurie Krasny -- Boston: Little, Brown, 1996.
Explains in simple language the feelings people may have regarding the death of a loved one and the ways to honor the memory of someone who has died.
FAM BF 575 .G7 B77

Zoé et les papillons du souvenir: allégorie pour enfants de 5 ans / Bigras, Danielle. -- Stoneham, QC: Éditions NKS, 2012.
Quelquefois, dans la vie, des événements tristes surviennent, telle l'histoire de Zoé, une petite chenille, qui a un gros chagrin. Raconté de façon allégorique, ce conte parle de la mort d'un proche; il explique aux enfants la perte d'un être cher.
FAM BF 575 .G7 B54 2012

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Web Sites

Compassionate Friends of Canada – Ottawa Valley / Outaouais Chapter

Compassionate Friends

Bereaved Families of Ontario – Ottawa Region

Grief & Loss - BC Children’s Hospital  

Roger’s House / La maison de Roger

Grief – Sesame Street

Living with loss: Ways to help you grieve a death – Kids Help Phone / Comment surmonter la perte d'un êtrecher et vivre son deuil – Jeunesse j’écoute

Dougy Centre for Grieving Children & Families 

Grief and Children – American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Talking to Children about Death -  National Institutes of Health Clinical Centre

Grief – American Hospice Foundation

Grief – Health Link BC

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Grief Support Network
● From Good From Apps
● English
● Free
● Last updated Oct 2014
● From Google Play: A free proximity-based social network connecting & supporting people grieving or who have grieved with the objective of creating a global community of Grief Angels that can be there for each other during one of life's most difficult time. Subscribers to the app are known as "Grief Angels" that know that the people they may be helping now or in the future may be themselves, their families or friends.
● Available from Google Play

Local Contacts

Bereaved Families of Ontario – Ottawa
211 Bronson Ave, Suite 303
Ottawa, ON K1R 6H5

Bereavement Support & Education – Ottawa

The Compassionate Friends - Ottawa Valley / Outaouais Chapter
31 Maplehill Way
Nepean, ON K2C 3H1

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