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Kaitlin Atkinson Family Resource Library

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Always my child: a parent's guide to understanding your gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or questioning son or daughter / Jennings, Kevin; Shapiro, Pat. -- New York: Simon & Schuster, 2003.
Offers advice and support for parents with adolescents dealing with sexual identity, personal confusion, bigotry, tension, and other challenges of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered.
FAM HQ 76.25 .J37 2003

Beyond magenta: transgender teens speak out / Kuklinm, Susan. -- Somerville, Massachusetts: Candlewick Press, 2014.
Author and photographer Susan Kuklin met and interviewed six transgender or gender-neutral young adults and used her considerable skills to represent them thoughtfully and respectfully before, during, and after their personal acknowledgment of gender preference. Portraits, family photographs, and candid images grace the pages, augmenting the emotional and physical journey each youth has taken.
FAM HQ 76.25 .K85 2014

Far from the tree: parents, children and the search for identity / Solomon, Andrew. -- New York: Scribner, 2012.
In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so. This book explores themes of generosity, acceptance, and tolerance—all rooted in the insight that love can transcend every prejudice. Chapter XI is about transgender.
FAM HV 888.5 .S65 2012

Gender born, gender made: raising healthy gender-nonconforming children / Ehrensaft, Diane. -- New York: Experiment, 2011.
This book seeks to humanize the experience of gender-nonconforming and to remind us that children often will tell you what they need, if only we learn how to listen.
FAM HQ 76.25 .E58 2011

The gender quest workbook: a guide for teens & young adults exploring gender identity / Testa, Rylan Jay. -- Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2015.
If you are a transgender and gender nonconforming (TGNC) teen, you may experience unique challenges with identity and interpersonal relationships. In addition to experiencing common teen challenges such as body changes and peer pressure, you may be wondering how to express your unique identity to others. This book incorporates skills, exercises, and activities from evidence-based therapies-such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you address the broad range of struggles you may encounter related to gender identity, such as anxiety, isolation, fear, and even depression.
FAM HQ 76.25 .T58 2015

I am Jazz / Herthel,Jessica; Jennings, Jazz. -- New York: Dial Books for Young Readers, 2014.
This is the story of a transgender child who traces her early awareness that she is a girl in spite of male anatomy and the acceptance she finds through a wise doctor who explains her natural transgender status.
FAM HQ 76.25 .H58 2014

It gets better: coming out, overcoming bullying, and creating a life worth living -- New York: Dutton, 2011.
This is a collection of original essays and testimonials written to teens from celebrities, political l leaders, and everyday people. While many of these teens can't see a positive future for themselves, we can. We can show LGBT youth the kind of happiness, potential, and satisfaction their lives hold if they can just get through these early years.
FAM HQ 75.15 .I74 2011

The lives of transgender people / Beemyn, Genny; Rankin, Susan -- New York: Columbia University Press, 2011.
Responding to a critical need for greater perspectives on transgender life in the United States, the authors apply their extensive expertise to a groundbreaking survey-one of the largest ever conducted in the U.S - on gender development and identity-making among transsexual women, transsexual men, cross-dressers, and gender-queer individuals.
FAM HQ 76.25 .B44 2010

Mother-talk: conversations with mothers of lesbian daughters and FTM transgender children / Pearlman, Sarah F. -- Toronto: Demeter, 2012.
This is a collection of stories of twenty-four mothers; twelve who found out a daughter was a lesbian and twelve who learned that a child, once a biological female, was planning to transition to male. It captures the complexity of coming to terms with the loss of a daughter, who now lives in a different world and will live a different life. This book will help other mothers to understand their changed lives and their determination to remain connected.
FAM HQ 759.9145 .P42 2012

My child is gay: how parents react when they hear the news -- Crow's Nest, Australia: Allen & Unwin, 2006.
This is a collection of letters by parents which share the journey towards understanding and acceptance of their child's sexuality.
FAM HQ 76.25 .M9 2006

My princess boy: a mom's story about a young boy who loves to dress up / Kilodavis, Cheryl. -- New York: Aladdin, 2011.
This is a non-fiction picture book about acceptance. It tells the tale of a 4-year-old boy who happily expresses his authentic self by enjoying "traditional girl" things like jewelry, sparkles, or anything pink. It is designed to start and continue a dialogue about unconditional friendship and teaches children and adults how to accept and support children for who they are and how they wish to look.
FAM HQ 76.25 .K535 2010

Queer: the ultimate LGBT guide for teens / Belge, Kathy; Bieschke, Marke. -- San Francisco, CA: Zest Books, 2011.
Written especially for LGBT teens, this book includes advice on: coming out to friends and family; navigating social and dating life; dealing with queerphobia; standing up for rights; and more.  It includes personal stories from the authors as well as facts about landmark events in queer history.
FAM HQ 76.25 .B46 2011

Ryan's mom is tall / Jopling, Heather -- Cobourg, ON: Nickname Press, 2006.
This comparative book of opposites highlights the differences between Ryan's Mom and Mummy while using a puzzle motif to create a picture of families in the new millennium.
FAM HQ 777.8 .J66 2006

She's not there: a life in two genders / Boylan, Jennifer Finney. -- New York: Broadway Books, 2013. 
A memoir that tells the story of a person who changed genders chronicles the life of James, a critically acclaimed novelist, who eventually became Jenny, a happy and successful English professor.
FAM HQ 77.9 .B69 2003

Some assembly required: the not-so-secret life of a transgender teen / Andrews, Arin. -- New York: Simon & Schuster BFYR, 2014.
Seventeen-year-old Arin Andrews shares all the hilarious, painful, and poignant details of undergoing gender reassignment as a high school student.
FAM HQ 76.25 .A63 2014

Trans [DVD] / SexSmart Films -- New Hope, PA: SexSmartFilms, 2012.
Trans is an up-close and very personal journey into the transgender world through the memorable stories and the unusual lives of a remarkable cast of characters. These are the stories of boys and girls, men and woman ... and all the shades in between. Stories of extraordinary people who face fear, discrimination, ignorance and violence in the hopes they might one day be able to live ordinary lives.
FAM HQ 76.25 .T72 2012 DVD

Trans bodies, trans selves: a resource for the transgender community -- Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2014.
Each chapter takes the reader through an important transgender issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health topics, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more. Anonymous quotes and testimonials from transgender people who have been surveyed about their experiences are woven throughout, adding compelling, personal voices to every page. In this unique way, hundreds of viewpoints from throughout the community have united to create this strong and pioneering book. It is a welcoming place for transgender and gender-questioning people, their partners and families, students, professors, guidance counselors, and others to look for up-to-date information on transgender life.
FAM HQ 76.25 .E75 2014

Transgender 101: a simple guide to a complex issue / Teich, Nicholas M; Green, Jamison. -- New York: Columbia University Press, 2012.
Written by a social worker, popular educator, and member of the transgender community, this resource combines a portrait of transgenderism with a history of transgender life and its unique experiences of discrimination.  Each chapter explains how transgender individuals handle their gender identity, how others view it within the context of non-transgender society, and how the transitioning of genders is made possible.  Featuring men who become women, women who become men, and those who live in between and beyond traditional classifications, this book is written for students, professionals,
friends, and family members.

FAM HQ 76.25 .T35 2012

The transgender child / Brill, Stephanie A -- San Francisco: Cleiss Press, 2008.
This comprehensive first of its kind guidebook explores the unique challenges that thousands of families face every day raising their children in every city and state. Through extensive research and interviews, as well as years of experience working in the field, the authors cover gender variance from birth
through college.
FAM HQ 77.9 .B75 2008

Transitions of the heart: stories of love, struggle and acceptance by mothers of transgender and gender variant children -- Berkeley, CA: Cleis Press, 2012.
This is the first collection to ever invite mothers of transgender and gender variant children of all ages to tell their own stories about their child's gender transition. Representing a diversity of backgrounds and sexual orientations, these mothers affirm the experience of those who have raised and are currently raising transgender and gender variant children.
FAM HQ 77.9 .T72 2012

When Kayla was Kyle / Fabrikant, Amy. -- Lakewood, California: Avid Readers Publishing Group, 2013.
Kyle doesn't understand why the other kids at school call him names.  He looks like other boys, but doesn't feel like them.  Can Kyle find the words to share his feelings about his gender -- and can his parents help him to transition into the girl he was born to be?
FAM HQ 76.25 .F23 2013

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Web Sites

Sexual Orientation and Supporting Children and Youth who are Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Two-spirit, Queer & Questioning – CHEO / Orientation sexuelle et offre de soutien aux jeunes gais, lesbiennes, bisexuels(les), bispirituel(les), ou en questionnement - CHEO

Gender Identity and Diversity - CHEO / Identité de genre et diversité - CHEO

Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Health – MedlinePlus from the U.S. National Library of Medicine

Eagle Youth Reach

Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Teens: Facts for Teens and Their Parents - Healthy Children

It Gets Better Project

LGBTI - National LGBTI Health Alliance Australia

Transkids - Purple Rainbow Foundation

PFLAG - Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

PFLAG Canada

Rainbow Health Ontario / Santé arc-en-ciel Ontario

Sexual Attraction and Orientation - Kids Health - Information for Kids, Teens and Parents from the Nemours Foundation

Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity - Kids Help Phone / Orientation sexuelle et identité sexuelle - Jeunesse J’écoute

Transparent Canada 

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Health - Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

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Refuge Restroom
● From Harlan Kellaway
● English
● Free
● Last updated May 2016
● iTunes: Refuge maps safe restrooms for transgender, intersex, and gender nonconforming individuals.Features: Tap a map pin to see more information about a restroom, including whether the restroom is unisex and or accessible; use the search bar to zoom to a specific address and view restrooms nearby – great for everyday use or travel.
● Available from iTunes and Google Play

You Are Important – Depression, Suicide and Bullying Prevention Video App by Wonderiffic®
● From Wonderiffic, Inc.
● English
● Free
● Last updated March 2015
● Rated 12+
● iTunes: This app contains hundreds of videos from the It Gets Better® and You Can Play® Projects.  In these videos you’ll meet people from corporations, sports teams, universities.You’ll meet police, politicians, celebrities and musicians.You’ll also meet other just like you.
● Available from iTunes

Always There / Toujours à l’écoute
● Kids Help Phone / Jeunesse j’écoute
● Free / gratuit
● English and French / anglais et français
● Last updated April 2016 /Dernière mise-à-jour 2016 avril
● The Kids Help Phone app provides a password protected space for you to log your feelings during the day, as well as youth-submitted inspirational quotes, tips on taking care of yourself, and jokes aimed at helping you cope with stress. The Info Booth has lots of information on emotional health topics and more. Finally, the app can also connect you directly with a Kids Help Phone counselor over the phone, or during certain hours, Live Chat. / L’application Toujours à l’écoute offre un espace protégé par mot de passe pour recueillir tes émotions au courant de la journée, et pour accéder à des pensées inspirantes, des conseils pour prendre soin de toi et des blagues qui ont le but de t’aider à gérer le stress. Le kiosque d’info offre beaucoup d’information sur la santé émotionnelle ainsi que d’autres sujets. Enfin, l’application peut également te connecter directement avec un intervenant de Jeunesse J’écoute par téléphone, ou à notre service de clavardage pendant ses heures d’ouverture.
● Available from / Disponible depuis Google Play and iTunes

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“The talk": Sexual health & sexual identity by Dr. Stephen Feder (5 parts) - CHEO connects

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Local Contacts

PFLAG Ottawa
National Support Line: 888-530-6777

Lesbian Gay Bi Trans Youth Line Ontario
No question is too silly, no problem too serious. We may not have all the answers, but we're here to listen and we'll do our best to help you find the resources you need. We are sex positive and non-judgemental. We're here to help youth who are 26 and under who live anywhere in Ontario.
Text Messaging: 647-694-4275

Family Services Ottawa
312 Parkdale Avenue
Ottawa, ON K1Y 4X5

This guide provides medical material for information purposes only and is not intended to replace the advice of your physician. The information may not
always apply to your individual situation. 

The guide represents material available in the Family Resource Centre collection at CHEO.  It is not intended to be an exhaustive list. Your local public library may also be able to provide valuable information.

If you require materials in alternative formats, please contact the library at 613-737-7600 ext. 2157 or at

Last Updated : June 2016
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