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My 12 year old daughter watched a horror movie (The Conjuring) at the neighbour’s house without our consent or knowledge. It has been almost a month and she is scared to sleep in her room alone. She has been sleeping with me and I am trying to reassure her that there is nothing that will hurt her. I have tried to read with her before bed and use a nightlight, but she can’t seem to fall asleep or she is fighting falling asleep because she is fearful. I don’t know how to help her and of course I don’t want her to be sleeping with me anymore. I asked if there was anything else that bothers her but she says no. When she closes her eyes she sees the image of this scary person. I have told her to think of happier things and she says that she can’t get that image out of her mind. She was okay up to watching this movie.
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My 4 year has developed a phobia and anxiety regarding the rain. One time while I was on a walk with my infant son and my 4 year old, we got caught in a brief downpour. My oldest son had a full blown panic attack and I didn't know what to do. I found a sheltered play structure that we sat in until the rain cloud subsided but since then (which was 2 months ago) he refuses to go outside as far as the backyard. We have tried everything! It is really getting serious to the point that he refuses to leave the house at all. What measures should we be taking to fix this?
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Even if you can't "snap out" of depression, is there any way to lessen it or help it get better without having to consult a psychologist? Also, are there ways to avoid repressing feelings? This is probably the main cause for the depression, and knowing how to understand and let emotions express themselves seems very important.
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I am a child care provider who is having a very difficult time with a child that comes to my home. She has a very difficult time interacting with other children and often will become physical with the other kids. She also has threatened serious harm to me and the other children, all with a smile and a laugh on her face. When asked if she understood what she was saying, she let me know she knew exactly what she said. What can I do here to support a more positive environment? Also, if things do not get better and she begins to spiral out of control, what can I support her parents to do?
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My 12 year old daughter is experiencing all of these categories - anxiety, depression, bullying, thoughts of suicide/self-harm, eating disorder. She is seeing a psychiatrist at CHEO and I have accessed services through YSB (and we finally have secured a long term counselor for her). My question as a parent is about setting limits for a child who is going through these kinds of mental health issues. I sometimes feel like she is manipulating the situation as she knows I am doing everything I can to help her get 'healthy' and be happy again. I find myself giving in because as they say - it's wise to choose our battles and sometimes it's just not worth the fight. What would your suggestions be for a parent in my situation? When I try to impose limits, she pushes and tests me - at times becomes belligerent and curses, threatening to not come home or self-harm again.
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My best friend is nearly 17 and was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and depression, showing signs of an eating disorder and having panic attacks regularly. She's told me she hears voices and she's cut and burned herself a lot in the past year. She still won't tell me the worst of it because she doesn't want to stress me out. Her parents know, but think everything is fine now. I want her to talk to a professional and she says she's willing to but doesn't want her parents to know. Is there anyone she can talk to?
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For the past year, our 10 year old daughter has been having emotional outbursts –yelling, slamming doors and crying. You never know what will set her off. These episodes are most common when we are getting her ready to leave the house in the morning, after school or just before bed in the evening. We’ve had many discussions about emotions and acceptable behaviours but she says that she cannot help herself. Sometimes she even denies having had the outburst. We've given her various tools to calm herself but this doesn’t seem to work either. We have resorted to grounding her and taking some of the things away that she loves to do. This has no impact on the behaviour. In addition to these outbursts, she’ll often talk back and most recently she has resorted to hitting her younger brother and mother. This behaviour happens in the home and not in public with her friends. Do you have any suggestions?
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My teenage daughter has been pulling out her eyelashes. She started a few years ago, but then it got better. Unfortunately, it has started again. When I asked her about her loss of eyelashes, she did say she was pulling them out, but that she would stop. Today I noticed that her eyebrows are very thin, and there are gaps where the eyebrows used to be. So she isn't pulling out eyelashes, but has turned to her eyebrows. I am concerned that this is a habit that will only get worse. She is very active in sports and does well in school. Is there a way to help her stop?
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As I monitor my 12 year old daughter's internet usage, I have noticed that she spends a lot of time looking at websites about suicide, self-harm, and body image. She also has several "friends" on Instagram which talk a lot and post pictures about these topics. Is it normal for her to be curious about these things, or is it a signal that something more serious is going on? When I ask her why she looks at those things she insists it is not because she is going to "do anything". I don't want to make a big deal of it because I don't want her to start hiding what she is doing, but it makes me uncomfortable to say the least.
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My 9yr. old grandson is in a shared custody arrangement, spending approx. 50% time with each parent. He constantly complains when he has to go back to his father's home...his father remarried last year and a new baby is on the way. When his father remarried and they moved into another home my grandson started showing signs of anxiety – crying for his mother at school to the point the school had to contact her to calm him down. In grade 2 he started complaining of tummy aches and he has become overweight. He is very tired. He is a wonderful little boy, doing well in school but feels torn. He openly states he does not like his stepmother....does not give a reason....just has never liked her. Where can my daughter get some help for her son?
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Our 17 year old daughter has been seeing a psychiatrist referred through CHEO for 4 years now. She is unable to attend regular high school but we have her in a special program to help her finish school. However, she is no longer able to carry through with her participation. She is unable to take care of herself including her basic needs, and her treatment has not made any progress. We are very frustrated and don’t know where to turn for help. Who should we talk to and how can we get help? We will not give up on our daughter.
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My 9-year-old was recently diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis. The first wave of treatment did not work, and now that we're trying new medicines he's afraid that he will "never be better". He says he doesn't want to tell anyone - his school, his Sensei at the dojo - because he doesn't want special treatment. He just wants to "be a normal kid again" and not have to take medicine for the rest of his life. How do I support him, but still get him to see that his medicine will help him live life more normally?
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My daughter will not eat lunch when she's at school and won't tell me why. She only eats at home when we are with her. She's losts 20lbs since September and I'm worried about her. What should I do?
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I have a 17 year old daughter who is being treated for hypothyroidism. However, for the last 5 years she has been slowly withdrawing and not participating in events with anyone. She spends her time reading in a dark room and I really struggle to get her out of the house. She has been referred to a therapist but she won't go. I would like her to see a Dr. at CHEO and I would like her to be tested but for more than just anxiety or depression. She has graduated high school and doesn't know what to do with her life so she has not applied anywhere. The only way I think I could convince her to be assessed is to do it to help her to figure out what to do with her life. If she could then have someone do a complete analysis it would be appreciated. I think it could be more than just a thyroid problem.
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My son is 16 years old and has had thoughts of suicide, though he assures my husband and I - and his doctors - that he would never do it. The struggle we have is knowing when to leave our son alone and when not to. We recently wanted to leave to go camping for the weekend and our son did not want to join us. Our son tells us that he is 16 and should be able to make his decisions to go or not to go anymore. How do we know if it's ok to leave him alone for a night or two?
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I am at my wit's end with how to help my 7 year old son. He has been experiencing behavioural issues since around the time he was 5 years old. He has become withdrawn, moody, fidgety, and is unable to emotionally cope with anything. I have received complaints from the school about his inability to stay still, and about his constant "pouting", i.e.: if anyone says anything remotely critical or negative (like a teacher trying to correct his work) he completely shuts down and refuses to participate in anything for the remainder of the day. I have gotten tests back with scores of zero for subjects he knows inside-out, simply because he has refused to write the test after a teacher asked him to stay still. At home, he self punishes himself constantly. If I ask him to pick up a toy or tell him he's not allowed to do something, he will drop his head, say he's going to his room, and will refuse to come out because he claims he's "on a time out". He will stay there for hours if I let him, claiming he's not allowed to come out even after we assure him he's not in trouble. He is so quick to shut down. Recently at an amusement park, he discovered there was one ride he couldn't go on, so he claimed there was nothing there for him and stubbornly refused to go on any rides for the remainder of the day. I could go on, but these are just a few small recent examples of his constant state. I worry about how it's going to affect his schooling, and his ability to cope with anything in life, really, if it continues. Any thoughts on how I can help him through this? Or what I'm dealing with?
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Lately, my teenage daughter has been behaving wildly. She’s become disrespectful, bullies her younger sister, and skipped most of her classes – which resulted in her failing her semester. She recently hosted a pool party during our absence, which she knew was against our house rules and became enraged once her father arrived home and kicked everyone out of the pool. So we asked her to leave and come back when she’d be ready to abide by our rules which are quite simple: respect everyone in our household, no bullying of her younger sister, no one allowed in the pool without adult supervision, respect for curfew and no lying whatsoever. While she was away, I cleaned up her bedroom and found bongs, drug pipes, razor blades, lighters, and pocket knives. When she came back, she learned what I had found and that I had thrown it away, and again, went into a wild rage - throwing a kitchen chair across the room and denting my stove; throwing water bottles at us, punching the walls and kicking things. I didn’t know what to do so I called the Youth Services Bureau’s helpline, who told me to call 911. The policemen that came talked to her for a good 25 minutes and she calmed down. My husband and I declined the policeman's offer to press charges (very hard to do with your own kid), so the officer suggested we write up a contract on what we expect from her. She avoided us that night and every night for a bit but did agree to it. But when came time to sign our contract she started with the profanity again and tore it up into pieces. Again, we asked her to leave and not return until she was willing to respect our rules. She was back on Saturday and we told her that there would be one more condition: for her to live in our home, she would have to agree to undergo a full assessment. She has finally agreed to this - but her tantrums seem to be getting more powerful and I am afraid that if we don't seek help for her - it's only going to get worse. I want to help and I want what's best for her - I just don't have a clear view as to how I can do this. I know I can't handle the stress of her rages and tantrums anymore. I thank you in advance for your advice.
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After watching a scary movie with friends at a birthday party my 12 year old son started sleeping with a night light again. This was almost a year ago and he still uses the night light. Then, he started to close his bedroom door at night and won't sleep with the door open. And just recently, he has begun to close his window as well. I have tried to invite him to take baby steps, such as trying one night with his door open or at least opening his window a small crack during warm nights, but he refuses. He says the sounds he hears and the shapes he sees if he wakes up during the night, scare him. I feel he has built unhealthy sleep habits. Should I be worried? Is this normal for a 12 year old? How can I help him feel comfortable at night?
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My daughter has these random Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) episodes. Her most recent one was because she felt as though she was going to cause something bad to happen to her family if she went on our property or in our house. She was outside for at least 2 hours before I came to get her because it was dark. When I finally forced her to come inside, she was crying and telling me that her head was telling her that she was going to cause something bad to happen. After I finished talking with her she was still having her OCD episode and for the next hour and a half she couldn't move from one spot in our kitchen and when I managed to force her to go to bed, she refused to sit or be in the same room as anyone else, for fear that she would cause something bad to happen. Even the next day she was really uncomfortable in the house and to be around people in our house. You could tell that she was still having a little bit of a panic. My question is should I take her to the hospital if she is having episodes like this? Her episodes are WAY worse if someone in the house is sick. She won't touch anything for a week and she can't be on the same level in the house as the sick person. Are any of these situations that would be best if dealt with at a hospital? Thanks!
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If someone has a traumatic experience, then develops a phobia that is directly linked to part of the experience, is it a form of PTSD?
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