Mental Health

Information for siblings

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Ways to help
Facts
FAQs
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About 1 in 5 young people experience a mental illness like anxiety or depression before their 18th birthday. Chances are you probably already know someone with mental illness, like a friend, classmate or teammate. Sometimes, it’s a brother or sister coping with a mental illness. When this happens, it can be hard to know what the right thing is to do or say. It can also be confusing if you don’t have a good understanding of mental illness. This information sheet should help answer some questions for you.

Ways to help your brother or sister

"Do's"

Some things that could help:

  • Do be open and ask questions.
  • Do ask if you can help – your support can make a big difference!
  • Do be patient.
  • Do be respectful.
  • Do give your brother or sister space during a difficult time.
  • Do talk to people you can trust (friends, family members, a doctor or counselor).
  • Do ask your parents to give you information. Secrets can make everyone feel worse.
  • Do remember that when people have a mental illness, they don’t ‘feel like themselves’.

"Don'ts"

These things don't help at all, so:

  • Don’t tease your sibling (like saying mean things or making fun of your brother or sister) –this really hurts
  • Don’t assume anything – ask questions if you don’t know
  • Don’t say things like "Just get over it!" Don’t think your brother or sister is behaving this way just to get attention
  • Don’t take outbursts personally
  • Don’t be afraid to let your parents know if your brother or sister does things that seem scary to you. It is okay to talk openly about your feelings. It may even be important information that your parents don’t already have, and may help them get the right help for your brother or sister.

Fast Facts

1. Between 10 – 20% of Canadian youth experience a mental illness at some point. It is the most common illness experienced by youth worldwide.

2. About 5% of males and 12% of females between the ages of 12 and 19 will have a major depression.

3. Suicide is an important health problem in Canada. Every year, about 4000 youth die by suicide. That’s the size of several high schools of youth dying from suicide each year!

4. Youth who develop schizophrenia often have challenges that will affect them throughout their lives.

5. Stigma around mental illness is the biggest reason why youth don’t ask for help. Getting help early can prevent a lot of pain and suffering. Illnesses can also be easier to treat in the early stages.

Questions and Answers (Q&A)

Many young people have questions when their brother or sister has a mental illness. We hope these answers will help.

Q: How did my brother or sister get a mental illness?

A: There are lots of different reasons why people get a mental illness. It is usually because of a few things
happening all at the same time, instead of one single reason. Mental illness does run in families, so if a parent or close relative has a mental illness, there is a greater chance that other members of the family may experience mental illness. Difficult relationships with friends or parents or problems at school (like bullying) can also make things stressful for young people. With lots of stressors adding up, it is easy to see how a young person can become overwhelmed with their lives.

Q: Will I get a mental illness if my brother or sister has one?

A: Although having a brother or sister with a mental illness puts you at higher risk for developing a mental illness, it doesn’t mean that you will get one. What it does mean, is that you need to take care of yourself. If you start feeling sad or anxious or have other symptoms that are upsetting, you need to talk to someone you trust to help you figure out what is going on. We all have these feelings sometimes but if they continue for more than two weeks it is important to let someone know.

Q: My sister hurts herself on purpose. Why does she do this?

A:Sometimes people with mental illness are in such pain that they use unhealthy ways to cope. This can mean hurting themselves on purpose. The good news is that with the help and support of family, friends and professionals, they can find new healthier ways to manage their mental illness and difficult feelings. Even though it might be upsetting for you to know your sister hurts herself, try and be patient with her. Talk to someone you trust to discuss how you’re feeling about it.

Q: Why did my brother have to go into the hospital?

Although it may seem like a pretty scary place to be, sometimes it is the best place for youth if they are not able to keep themselves safe.

Having someone you care about in the hospital is never fun, but it can be even more upsetting for the families of young people admitted to a psychiatric unit. Just remember that the kids you may see on the unit are just like your brother. They’re also trying to get better to go home to their family and friends. Try and be as supportive as possible to your brother at this time.

Q: Will my brother or sister be different once they are better?

A: We all change and grow over time, especially when we have had something important happen to us, like experiencing a mental illness. Even so, your brother or sister should mostly be the same as before they got sick. You might even notice positive changes. Youth can learn to cope with difficult situations by learning ways to better take care of themselves when things get tough.

Q: How long does mental illness last?

A: Having a mental illness is like having a cold – sometimes you begin to feel better quickly and other times it drags on much longer than you thought it would. Some people experience a mental illness only once in their lives and they never have it again. Others may experience several episodes during their life. It’s different for everyone.

Resources for youth

Crisis support

  • KidsHelp Phone: 24 hour anonymous telephone counseling, referral and internet service for children & youth, 1.800.668.6868 http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/
  • Lesbian Gay Bi TransYouth Line: confidential, free and non judgmental peer support and referral services, 1.800.268.9688 (Mon-Fri 4pm-9:30pm) http://www.youthline.ca/
  • Mental Health CrisisLine: crisis intervention services for youth 16 and older, 613.722.6914
    Outside Ottawa, 1.866.996.0991 http://www.crisisline.ca/
  • Ottawa Police: 613.236.1222 or in case of an emergency dial 9-1-1 http://www.ottawapolice.ca/
  • Ottawa Rape CrisisCentre: 24 hour crisis line supporting victims of sexual assault, 613.562.2333 http://www.orcc.net/
  • Regional Psychiatric Emergency Service for Children and Youth – located in CHEO Emergency Department: mental health services for youth in crisis (under 18yrs.) www.cheo.on.ca/mentalhealth  

Counseling & Support

  • Operation Come Home: drop-in centre, education, employment services, outreach program and reunite program to assist youth return home to their families, 613.230.4663 (local), 1.800.668.4663 (national)
    http://www.operationcomehome.ca/
  • Youth Net/Réseau Ado: mental health promotion/early intervention program for youth by youth, 613.738.3915 http://www.youthnet.on.ca/
  • Pink Triangle Services: peer-led support, education, advocacy and referral services for the GLBTTQ community, 613.563.4818 http://www.pinktriangle.org/
  • Youth Services Bureau: Mental Health Walk in Clinic and ongoing counselling services available with counsellors who are specialized in working with youth and their families. Mental Health Walk in located at 2301 Carling Ave. (Tues and Thurs 12-8) 613-260-2360 or http://www.ysb.on.ca/  
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